alright, so i'm just posting this here to vent. definitely not going to post it as a blog response like it's written.

Hi. Randomly came across this while browsing Facebook instead of doing homework, and I kind of feel compelled to respond.

This: "No one wants to let me in because I'm too controlling and stuck up, yet I can't fix this because no one will tell me what's wrong with me."

If my experiences with you in high school are any indication, I think one way you can put this in more concrete terms is that when you are critical of people, you tend to aim for very sensitive spots. Emotional groin shots, if you will. 

For an example from high school: the month where you gave me the cold shoulder because you thought that it would force me to initiate conversations. You were trying to be helpful, I'll give you that, but in a way that was severely misguided. What you didn't know is that 1) I have struggled with social anxiety for most of my lif e (though I didn't really put a name to it until last year, I'll give you that), and 2) I was severely depressed at the time, largely because of my anxiety problems. That year I think I spent more nights crying myself to sleep than not. At one point I had even attempted suicide. And, you know, you didn't explain what you were doing. So in my sophomore mind, the guy I was "dating" just up and stopped talking to me and I didn't know why. Then when we finally talked about it, you acted like you were doing me a favor by making me feel even more isolated than I already did. 

Also, you shouldn't get mad at people for not pointing out your own faults to you. The food-in-your-teeth comparison doesn't really hold up because that is a thing universally considered embarrassing, but people's personalities are not. It's usually considered socially unacceptable to go up to someone unsolicited and tell them that their personality is embarrassing. Nobody wants to fucking hear that.